I received this joke from a friend via IM: “You are truly a ‘modern’ young person if you have more than 300 numbers in your cell-phone and less than 3 of them ever call you”
It’s a pity I wasn’t able to sense the humor out of this statement. It is true that I have more than hundreds of numbers in my cell-phone and half a thousand contacts in my IM lists. It is also true that the number of people ever call me, or remember my birthday is relatively small compared to the total. But it is no matter. I call my friends every 3 months to save them the efforts of buzzing me; I organize get-togethers for different groups twice a year to warm up the relationship; I shout out if I want people to know my coming birthday will be next Friday so they won’t have to create a reminder; I even shamelessly publicize and spread my wish-list to save time for them for wondering what to buy for me. I go the extra miles from the boundary of my emotional territory. I choose to be straight-forward and open to receive the kind of response I expect. Not all are interested in my dust-kicking; but for the few that reply, I see their attachment, and I will be spending more time for those who care.
Of course, there is the cost I have to pay. Time, communication expense, misunderstanding, amusement are just a few to name. But if I don’t invest, return is zero. Worse, I would be spending time tormenting myself and blaming life. Life’s ungrateful and human is forgetful. That’s the very thing one needs to accept and find positive way to solve. There’s nothing wrong with upturning the habit. Spending energy to attract results in more positive outcomes than converging that energy into an internal and fragile melancholic bubble of torment.
The difference only comes to ones who choose to grow out of the average and be more proactive about their life. Pardon me, I might be too serious, but living effectively should never be a joke.
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Tags of this article: action,attitude,ego,life,network,relationship,self.
Last update June 7, 2007
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June 7th, 2007 at 4:38 am
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Just in time for me.